Pornography: How It Hurts Women

Porn is something that is thrown to my generation like candy. I remember how at one time the only people that really looked at porn were men, but now women are also getting hooked on it...Everywhere I turn it is there. In television shows, movies, books, everywhere. Peers try to pressure each other into watching it. Even this morning my friend at work told me how her neighbors pulled a prank on her last night by sticking Japanese porn dvd's all over her truck. She was so upset over that prank.

The mindset seems to be that it is just for fun. In the end though, it does way more damage to everyone involved than one may realize while they are hooked. I found this article on a blog about how porn hurts women... I put a snippet of it below. If you are interested in reading more, you click here.

We need to keep praying that the men in this world stay strong against pornography. Women too, but I still feel as if it is more of a struggle for the guys...

How Porn Makes a Woman Feel

Porn is something that is thrown to my generation like candy. Everywhere I turn it is there. In television shows, movies, everywhere. Peers try to pressure each other into watching it. The mindset seems to be that it is just for fun. In the end though, it does way more damage to everyone involved. I found this article on a blog about how porn hurts women... I put a snippet of it below. If you are interested in reading more, you click here.The thought of losing someone to a porn addiction is crippling and feels like the most severe emotional pain that could exist, especially if it results in the complete loss of the relationship. We know the detrimental effects of porn because of its chemical nature and effect on the brain and on one’s actions, demeanor, and behavior and because you’ve probably felt it in the way that your husband or boyfriend treats you even without knowing the scientific evidence of its impact.

You may have heard your husband or boyfriend say to you, “If you only did X, Y, or Z, then I wouldn’t use porn,” or “if you dressed up every once in awhile,” or they may shift blame and get upset at you for things you haven’t even done or get angry at you for no reason and proceed to push you away. Sound familiar?

Because of their personal guilt and shame they feel due to their addiction, you’ve probably experienced them attempting to shift any blame onto you, while getting frequently angry. Have you noticed that they withdraw from family activities or in spending time with you, or retreat from church, and social activities – things they once were involved in?

You and I, the wives and girlfriends, know without a doubt that it changes our loved ones as we experience the pain of porn firsthand. In fact, husbands report loving their wives less after long periods of looking at women depicted in porn. Wives and girlfriends develop deep, deep wounds and they begin to feel inadequate. They don’t just feel discomfort, but the distress level can be so high that it can lead to clinical treatment for trauma, eating disorders, and severe depression. It’s not just “temporarily feeling sad” about a husband/boyfriend’s addiction—it’s a blow to the core of who that woman is, that could lead to years of depression and much more.

Many women might even say that it’s worse than actual infidelity, because there isn’t one “real” person that they are having an affair with, it’s many intangible women and they don’t know what they are up against. Many times, porn addicts do not comprehend the downward spiral that they are causing their wives or girlfriends to enter into by their actions.